Definitely Not The Huxtuble’s

I think most people can agree that when looking at a relationship, we usually tend to feel sorry for the person who is on the receiving end of the infidelity. Well, a friend of mine called me and told me a true situation. He stated that a close friend of his was feeling particularity down. Naturally I couldn’t contain my curiosity and I asked him why. He said, that his friend’s fiancé had just called of their wedding and left him. The only thought that registered in my mind was  “oh that kinda sucks for him”. Well that is I thought that until I was told of the reason for her hasty departure. Apparently, he’s been sleeping around and he’s gotten his lover lady pregnant….and the extra bad news was that she was keeping the baby. Now, I’m not one to judge and I don’t think anybody should ever judge a person without knowing their reasons, circumstances and feelings for doing what they did. All I could say for his fiancé was that 1) Yes it is heartbreaking, but count this as a blessing, 2) At least you don’t have kids with him, which makes it a lot easier for you to leave, 3) Be thankful you found out when you did, it saves you the trouble of a messy divorce. I do feel bad for her, nobody deserves to go through that, and apparently, he’s never been able to be faithful. Yet all the while we’re pitying his fiancé, nobody really stops to think about the other women. What is she feeling at this moment. Between the fiancé and mistress, I think the mistress has it worse. Here she is getting ready to have a baby that the father doesn’t even want. Who knows what was running through her mind when she slept with him. I also don’t understand what it was that made her only fuck buddy material and not girl friend worthy.  At least for the fiancé, she can write this of as something unpleasant that happened in her past, but for the mistress, there will always be a constant living reminder. Call me crazy but although the mistress knew what she was doing was wrong, she’s going to have to deal with lasting consequences which in my view is much more painful that being cheated on. And I suppose inadvertently she also did save his fiancé from a worse fate of being married to him. Cheating… I don’t think it’s ever really as black and white as some people make it out to be.

Daddy’s Lil Girl

The other day I was having a discussion with a family friend. This conversation was regarding his daughter. She’s about 12, and she’s at the age where boys no longer have coodies. He proceeded to say that his daughter won’t be allowed to start dating until she’s 25. I started to laugh and then I told him, that every father is in denial about their daughter. They believe that their daughter will never have sex until her wedding night.  Being the devils advocate that I am, I asked him about his son. He laughed and said whenever he finds a girlfriend.

The reason for this double standard is because fathers were once teenage boys. Teenage boys have raging hormones. When they look at a girl, all they think of is “sex”. Fathers feel violated if a boy looks or even talks to their daughter because they’ve been there and they know what teenage boys are thinking.

Girls are the ones that actually get pregnant. This puzzles me because last time I checked girls don’t automatically become pregnant. If your son is going to have sex and knock up some girl then what? What pisses me off is that fathers are usually cheering on their son if they get a girl yet he is blinded to the fact that she’s someone else’s daughter.